In this heterosexual culture norm, the term asexual is rarely talked about compared to homosexual (when speaking against norms). Heteronormativity is used to describe how heterosexuality is our culture’s norm while anyone else seeing themselves in a different light would be considered minority. This week is asexual week and this led me to brush up on some ideas on what asexual individuals in this heteronormative world. I knew it was difficult for asexuals because a different norm to society was being forced on them. Asexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone. Celibacy differs from asexuality because the idea of choice comes into play where individual chooses not to be sexually active (regardless of desires).
What I did not realize was the heterosexuals were not the only ones providing force on sexual-enthusiastic activity. Friends and family gossip about sexual relations as well as include pictures, statuses, comments from weddings, dates, proposals, and babies on social media sites. In fairy tales, or storylines for movies, there someone always falls in love. These stories rub off into our culture where the common folk expects to find “the one” and live “happily every after”. Although these stories hold traditions, this is far from reality. We do not live in an heterosexual only world. There are plenty of asexuals that pass others by on the street and do not think of others as”hot” or “not”. They have other priorities.
It is shocking how extensive media gets with publishing sexual content. Television shows, magazines and movies strive for sexual enthusiastic behavior and values. For instance, there are magazine articles that talk about 10 best sex positions to try with your partner, or movies such as Black Swan with graphic homosexual sex scenes. These media messages are uncomfortable and asexuals cannot escape or avoid it.
Asexuals still have friends that are heterosexual, gay, trans, etc. Civil rights is not what asexuals push for, they want to be recognized in this heteronormative culture norm and have acceptance. Asexuals deserve the respect. This is some food for thought as asexual week cranks up.